The best way to learn Wedding Dance/Your First Dance

First Dance/Wedding Dance, 3 ways to learn

First Dance/Wedding Dance...the 3 ways to learn.

Did you know there are 3 ways to teach a First Dance/Wedding Dance? Have you thought about how you want to learn your First Dance/Wedding Dance or how it could affect your future life together?

Dancing through life

A lifetime a dancing

“How wonderful it is, that the way we learned to dance our First Dance/Wedding Dance gave us the ability to dance through our life together!”

Not all 3 ways to learn dancing are the same

In this post I will go through the three ways to learn First Dance/Wedding Dance. I will give you insight into the different ways to learn to dance. I will give the disadvantages and the advantages with each way of learning. This will help you become aware that two of these ways can cause stress, anxiety, frustration, and tension. In other words, your life together could start off on the wrong foot all because you are not aware that the way you learned your First Dance/Wedding Dance can cause you stress later in your life together. 

In my opinion there is only one way to learn to dance. The other ways could be described as putting handcuff and/or a chain-and-ball on you and your partner. I aim to give you a chance to make an informed decision to which way you want to lean to dance. Your First Dance/Wedding Dance should be, first of all, fun, and secondly should be some of the most joyful and memorable moments leading up yo your big day.

Here we have the three ways to learn...

Dancing a Routine

“Will the floor be big enough for our routine?” “Are there be room enough with the other couples on the floor? (We danced solo on the floor at our wedding).” “Will they play our song/melody?”

Wedding dance routine

Way to learn 1 of 3
Teaching Steps/Routine to One specific Song/Melody.

First method is learning steps/routines to one specific song/melody. If you learn specific steps, or a routine, to one specific song/melody, you are limiting yourself. You will only be able to dance the steps/routine you learned, and you will only be able to dance them in the order that you learned to dance them. In addition, you can only dance to that One song/melody that you picked as your First dance/Wedding dance song/melody.

What will you do when invited to a friend’s wedding, a birthday party, or date night where dancing is involved? Think about it now! I am sure your thoughts will be like this thought process.

“Will the floor be big enough for us to dance our routine?” “Are there enough room with the other couples on the floor? (We danced solo on the floor at our wedding).” “Will they play our specific song/melody?”

Not knowing what will happen will most likely cause stress, anxiety, frustration, and even relational tension. You will probably not enjoy yourself, and neither will your partner.

This method is ONLY great if you and your partner never plan to ever dance again after Your First Dance/Wedding Dance.

 

Learning strict tempo dances

Dancing Cha-cha, Waltz and Foxtrot

“Will they play a Cha-Cha, Waltz, Foxtrot or a Swing?” “I am hoping the next melody is strict tempo and one of the dances that we have learned.”

Way to learn 2 of 3
Teaching dances to strict tempo music.

The second method is learning to dance strict steps to strict tempo music. When you learn specific dances like Cha-Cha, Waltz, Swing and Foxtrot, just to mention a few examples, you will feel more liberated than learning one routine to one song/melody. This is, however, also a way of limiting yourself. You will only be able to dance those dances that you have learned, and only to strict tempo music. 

I ask you again what will your thought process be, when asked to a friend’s wedding, a birthday party or date night where dancing is involved?

I am sure you will be hoping and praying that the music played can be used for the one of the dances that you have learned. However, what if the music played doesn’t match any of the music that you have learned to dance to?

This way of learning to dance can also lead to stress, anxiety, frustration, and furthermore create relational tension. Again, you and your partner are not likely to enjoy yourselves. 

This method of learning is ONLY great if you and your significant other plan to learn and do competitive ballroom dancing. 

Leaning to Dance

“We can dance any step that comes to mind, to any music played, on all floor sizes and no matter how many people are on the floor with us.”

Learning to dance without restrictions

Way to learn 3 of 3
Teaching you to dance any step, to any music.

Third method is learning to dance any step, to any music. When you learn principles of movement in dancing, it is the most liberating way to learn to dance. You learn to move together, no matter the step danced, or the music played. This method helps you moving in harmony with your partner doing any step that comes to mind. You will also be able to make the dance fit to any size floor regardless of other couples sharing the floor with you. As a result, you feel free and liberated. 

Now I ask, what will be your thought process when invited to your friend’s wedding, a birthday party, or date night where dancing is involved?

Your thought process will probably go something like this:

“I am excited to go to this event and spend time dancing with my significant other!”. “I feel relaxed, joyful, excited, and eager in anticipation of the wonderful evening the two of us will be spending together dancing!”

This way of learning to dance will allow you and your partner to enjoy dancing together – not only for that one night of your wedding, but a lifetime. It will become something you both look forward to doing together. You may even look for more opportunities to dance together and spend quality time together on a regular basis.

By the way, this way of learning to dance is the main principle used within the Body School System™ 

 

Conclusion:

You now have the insight into the ways the First Dance/Wedding Dance is normally taught throughout the United States.

When you interview potential dance teacher/school for Your First Dance/Wedding dance, you can now ask valid questions about which way they teach. Because you can make an informed decision as to how you want to learn to dance. You will be able to voice your wishes and also tell the teacher what you are looking to get out of your lessons. I would suggest that you pick the way that teaches you to dance any step, to any music, as described in Teaching Style 3. As a result of choosing Teaching Style 3, the enjoyment of dancing together will be part of the future you share together.

The description in teaching style 3 is the way dancing is taught in the Body School System™.

Click here… If you want to know more about the Body School System™

There are currently 14 certified Body School System™ teachers worldwide. Most of them are located in the United States. Click here… To inquire for an in-person teacher in your area. 

There is also an online Your First Dance/Wedding Dance program that is based on you learning to dance as taught in the Body School System™ Click here for the online program.

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